How to cope with a job we hate
As a new entrepreneur, we often have to keep our full-time job. It’s not an uncommon experience. You work every day – at least five days a week – at a job you dislike, even hate. But the money is good, and you understand that having money is an important part of building a business.
Every morning as you walk into your workplace you ask yourself this:
How can I survive another day?
This may seem like an oversimplified suggestion to a problem that is tearing you up, but before you dismiss it, give it an honest try. There’s a common belief among many individuals that what shows up in your life is more of what you’re focusing on.
What does that mean? It means the more you focus on hating your job and the parts of the job you hate (the way your supervisor talks to you, some of the especially onerous tasks or even some of your colleagues and coworkers) these areas of your job are going to continue to expand. The results? You’ll discover it more difficult with every passing day to get up and drag yourself to work.
Concentrate on the Good Areas of Your Job
Instead of focusing on what you hate about your job, concentrate on the areas of your job you like. What good will this do? You may discover that as you think about the aspects you enjoy, it’s almost guaranteed you’ll discover how these areas will expand.
It sounds implausible, if not impossible. Before you dismiss it though, consider this. Let’s say you want to buy a car. You find a beautiful blue car and you feel sure there are not many vehicles on the road in this color. As soon as you drive off the car lot, you see more blue cars the exact same color of yours than you ever have. What’s up with that, you think. You tend to find what you’re looking for.
Don’t believe me? Try this two-step experiment in the book E-Squared: Nine Do-It-Yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality by Pam Grout.
The next time you’re driving, whether you going to the store or driving to work, search for cars that are a certain color, let’s say yellow. Yellow is as good as choice as any. But they’re especially good for this exercise. They’re easier to spot on the roads, so you’re less likely to cause an accident while looking for them. Secondly, usually they’re hard to find. Count them as you discover them.
What you’ll more than likely find is that there are more yellow cars on the road than you previously thought.
The second part of this experiment is to do the exact same search, but this time look for yellow butterflies. Yes, not just butterflies but yellow ones. One woman took this search on in the middle of winter. She was sure she would find no yellow butterflies. After she read the instructions she picked up her spiral notebook only to discover it was decorated with butterflies of all colors. Specifically, it had thirteen yellow ones. She had not even noticed that until her mind went searching for them.
What does this mean for your job?
It means once you begin searching for aspects of your job that you like, small tasks, good friends, the view from your office window, the more items you’ll find to like.
While you still dislike many aspects of your job, by focusing on what is tolerable – even enjoyable – at work, it might help you to tolerate it long enough to find the job you were really meant to have. Or, you might find that where you are right now isn’t so bad after all. Either way, you’ll probably rid yourself of the gnawing feeling in your gut every morning as you commute to work.
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